Tween friendships can be complicated, especially for girls, ages 10-14. In a perfect world, you meet your BFF at an early age and remain friends for the rest of your life. In reality, many obstacles come into play throughout your pre-teen years. One of those obstacles could be a third friend.
The third friend happens innocently enough. You're standing at your locker, and your best friend introduces you to a new girl who just moved into the area. She seems nice enough. Later in the week, you notice your BFF talking and laughing with her in the hallway. Do you get jealous? You think to yourself, That's ridiculous. We can both have more than one friend. Coincidentally, you, and your BFF are on the same sports team as the third friend. She turns out to be surprisingly funny and you all get along. The three of you begin doing everything together— shopping, sleepovers, movies, etc. You're inseparable... until you're not.
There always tends to be an instance. A situation where you think to yourself, Are they talking behind my back? Can I trust them?
That's the time you can choose to be kind, and trust in your friendships, or fall down the rabbit hole to a dark place of fear. Fear of being abandoned, of missing out, of not being enough. The list goes on and on, and can dwell in your mind as long as you let it. Key word... you! You control your thoughts and feelings. Choose not to look too far into a casual laugh or whisper between your two BFF's. Yes, there's a chance they may betray you, but there's also a chance they could be your friends for life.
Question of the Week: In your experience with friendships, was it the three musketeers or three's a crowd?
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